My approach to counselling around sexuality, including kink, D/s and BDSM dynamics. gender, polyamoury and the relationships in your life.

Exploring issues related to sexuality in therapy, I offer support that is non-judgmental, encouraging and informed. Whether you are a survivor of sexual trauma, in your very first sexual relationship or long term monogamous, celibate by choice or otherwise – I am available to talk with you about your experiences.

Sex-positive resources:

Come As You Are
Canada’s co-operative sex store

Kink and BDSM
My counselling background includes experience with people whose sexuality includes safe, sane and consensual exploration of power dynamics. I provide a non-judgmental space for reflection and discussion.

Polyamory, Ethical Non Monogamy, Monogamy
Whether you are thinking about introducing the idea of ethical non-monogamy to your partner, wondering how to make polyamoury work for yourself, or if you want help sorting through relationship dynamics, I offer you an opportunity for discussion and reflection in a non-judgmental space. I offer the same support working through issues in monogamous or open relationships.

Gender
Over time, I have  been fortunate to work with diverse youth and adults at all stages of their gender journeys.  People  have shared their language for these journeys with me.  I am familiar with words like gender-queer, gender non-conforming, genderful, non-binary, transgender, transsexual and intersex – as well as cis-gender, androgynous, and many more.   I don’t assume that these words alone describe your experience.  When I work with you, I strive to use the language and the pronouns that work well for you.

Relationships
I am available for relationship counselling, working with couples and other combinations as well as friends, housemates, or any other significant relationships.  I believe our relationships are of primary importance in our healing.  I think of conflict as potential to learn, heal and love better – both ourselves and each other.  My approach to relationship therapy is trauma- and attachment informed and parts work focused.

2SLGBTQQIA+:  This acronym represents Two-Spirit, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual and additional people who identify as part of sexual and gender diverse communities. The “2S” at the front recognizes Two-Spirit people as the first 2SLGBTQI+ communities.  My experiences show me that language and shared understandings of orientations, identities and gender continue to change and evolve, individually as well as collectively.  So when I work with you, I strive to use the words and pronouns that work for your experience.